Choosing to Grow in Marriage




I think so many times we begin to forget about how important our family unit is. We take our family for granted. We take our spouse for granted. We take our children for granted. We forget that it is incredibly important for us to have a strong focus on each other and on the Lord. 

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

This verse is used millions of times, but the importance of it is sometimes overlooked. When two people decide to marry they decide to leave their parents behind and to focus on one another. They become united as one. 

With that comes being submissive, being supportive, being respectful of one another, putting one another first, learning how to compromise and showing each other kindness and love. 

You should not run back to your parents. You should not choose your parents over your spouse. When important or unimportant decisions come your way, you cling to your spouse. 

Marriage is not easy. 

The honeymoon stage comes and goes. 

You become very aware of each other's habits that you don't particularly care for. 

Sometimes you drive each other absolutely crazy. 



Then come the kids. 

If marriage was challenging before children then you are in for a real roller coaster ride of crazy. 

Children bring some of the most difficult decisions, difficult challenges. The most natural thing to do is to ask your parents. Parents can provide for some wealthy information over raising your children, but you do not allow their opinions to trump over your spouse. 

We have just begun this adventure with a 3 year old and 1 year old. 

It's easy for me to call my mom. It's easy for my husband to call his mom. It's easy for us to argue over what is better for our kids according to what our own parents think. 

This causes a wedge between our marriage. 

This causes strain on our family unit. 

When we said our vows, when we entered this marriage...we became one. 

We take our parents advice, but we are always learning that we have to make our own decisions. We have to parent our children the way we want to parent. We have to be united in our parenting.

Being united in our parenting also unites us in our marriage. 

It's a win-win situation. 



There will always be challenges with children.

There will always be challenges in marriage. 

There will always be challenges in a family unit. 

How you approach these challenges is what will grow or break your family. 


We choose to grow for this guy. 


We choose to grow for this girl.

We choose to grow for our marriage. 

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:33



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