Speaking Kindness and Love

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29

We've all done it. 

We've all spoken ill of someone else to someone else. It's the chain of gossip and it's nothing new. It's actually a very old concept that many struggle with. I'll admit that it's easy. It's easy to spread gossip. It's easy to start gossip. But why do we do it? And does it really say much about the person you are talking about or about yourself?

Maybe someone hurt you. 

Maybe you felt offended by something that someone else did. 

Maybe you are jealous. 

Maybe they said something about you.

Maybe...

Maybe...

Maybe...

In the end the reasoning does not matter. It may have fueled you in the moment and maybe someone truly did hurt you, but it does not do any good to spread ill will against them either. 

It's this major struggle we deal with inside of us. We are emotional creatures, which is a good thing. It makes us more receptive to how others may be feeling and passionate about others, but it also makes us hurt. 

If we allow it to build up sometimes we are even left with bitterness. 

Bitterness turns into the desire to hurt the other person or let other people know what that other person has done. 

I'm not saying I'm a saint. I'm not preaching. 

I've done this. 

I'm a very emotional person and I tend to be one that allows my feelings to build up until I cannot take it any longer. I have been the bitter person. I have said things about my friends and my family because I was hurt. I have said things about people that, simply put, I do not like because I was hurt. 

Just because I do not care for the person, it does not give me the right to slander them anymore. Their own actions and words will speak for themselves. I do not have to fuel the fire. 

This is an area of my life that I am working desperately on. I do not want to speak unkindly of anyone. I only want words of love and encouragement to come out of my mouth. 

We are not perfect people. We are flawed. We seek so much in life. We hurt. We love. We live in a sinful world. 

I know I will stumble.

I know I will fail at times.

However, I want to be more intentional about my words. Intentional about what I am saying to others. 

May we work on building up others in confidence, love and kindness.




I have this sign up in my home to remind me the my words do truly matter.

(Sign from Barn Owl Primitives

Words Matter.

Be Kind.

Be Humble

Be Brave. 

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